Ah yes—couple goals. Not just the cute Instagram kind, but the real-life, messy, beautiful, intentional connection kind. 💛 Setting and actually sticking to couple goals can keep your relationship growing, even when life is hectic (hello, kids, jobs, bills, chaos). Here’s how to do it in a way that feels meaningful and doable:
💬 1. Talk Openly About What You Both Want
Start by sitting down—no distractions—and asking:
- What do we want more of in our relationship?
- What’s been missing lately?
- Where do we want to be emotionally, physically, spiritually (or even financially) in a year?
Get specific and honest. Your goals might look like:
- “Go on a date once a month.” (Prioritize this one! Make time for each other!)
- “Start a morning coffee or tea ritual together.”
- “Workout 3 times a week.” (Doesn’t have to be the same activity, Ex. I love hot yoga, my husband trains MMA)
- “Argue with more kindness.” (Seems impossible but maybe try counting to 10 before saying something you don’t mean)
- “Save for a couples’ weekend away.” (You’ll likely be talking about your kids the whole time, if you have any but it’s a great way to reflect on your lives & keep the spark alive)
📝 2. Set Goals That Are Realistic AND Aligned
The best couple goals are:
- Mutual (you both agree and feel good about them)
- Clear (not just “communicate better” but maybe “check in every Sunday night for 10 mins”)
- Achievable (start small—consistency beats big promises)
Example:
- ❌ Vague: “Be more connected”
- ✅ Clear: “Put phones away for 30 minutes after the kids go to bed and talk about our day”
📅 3. Build Them Into Your Routine
A goal is more likely to stick when it has a home in your calendar or daily life.
- Set reminders
- Use shared calendars
- Attach goals to things you already do (like chatting while folding laundry)
Think of them like habits you’re creating together.
🔁 4. Check In Regularly
Life shifts, so should your goals. Have a “relationship check-in” every few weeks or once a month:
- How are we doing with our goals?
- What’s working or not?
- What do we need to adjust?
Celebrate the wins (even small ones!) and laugh off the misses. This builds trust, not pressure.
🤝 5. Give Each Other Grace
You’re human. You’ll forget or mess up sometimes. That’s okay. The point is progress, not perfection. Encourage each other and revisit your “why” when you lose steam.
💖 Bonus: Make It Fun
- Create a vision board together (physical or digital)
- Turn it into a little challenge with rewards (like, “If we stick to weekly date nights for 2 months, we book that massage or getaway”)
- Name your goals something playful like “Operation Team Us” or “Reignite 2025” 😄
Till next time, Mary,
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